DR, this is a sensitive topic....so lets not get too personal with it, or else i might have to shut it down, so specific names and extra personal details on how it happend (we dont wanna give people ideas on HOW to do it lol!) - are a no no.
But nonetheless, its a really good topic...something many people can relate to, (I think I sort of can, maybe details on that later.)
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I am REALLY sorry to hear about your friend...but im sure youve done what you can already....making her a charm and all. I guess the only thing left to do is to give her UNCONDITIONAL SUPPORT. Let her know that you will ALWAYS be there for her, no matter WHERE you are (whehter beside her, in your art school, in a differnt continent, etc) you'll always be there for her.
I think the main thing that causes suicide is cause you feel so alone in the world, like nobody understands, or cares for you.
So let her know that youre there for her, 100%, not matter what. And pray lots, ask for the god and goddess to watch over her... And try and talk to her more...lately, there have been many tings pointing to this: that talking to another human can be an emotional cure. Try it
And you know what - if your almost so positive that she will do it, and youre so worried - I think you ought to tell someone. Its definitely NOT easy telling someone, I mean itd sorta be betrayal to your friend - or it might feel that way. but think of it this way: youre relaly doing her a favor!
Do her parents know that shes in this state?! They have the right to know, should know and should care!
I mean this IS a life we are talking about here...havent you seen all htose commercials and stuff lol? Like if youre getting abused, call someone, get help, etc. And this is even MORE serious, so you NEED to tell someone.
I really hope that you never get that call...I cant even imagine how horrible it would be.
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So lil about me and how i can KINDA relate to it.
A few years ago... I often got depressed and stuff. I guess they were just phases and stuff. But sometimes it would REALLY suck, ....its almost as if life was fulla crap. The many times that ive considered this as an option is hardly even a laughing matter.
The worst part was that my parents never cared. TElling my dad was just not an option - I mean, he was too into his stuff and wayyy to busy to be ooncerned. And i wasnt huge on opening up with people anyways.
And my mom - she didnt take anything i told her seriously. LIke if i told her, shed probably be like 'go die'. Shed think id never do it, so shed say that...but who knows.
Although these notions have been in my head many times, there are moments in my life when im glad i never did it. I never really got close to doing it anyways, as you know, i mentioned in our tattoo thread - im one girl who cannNOT stand pain and was not about to inflict pain on mysef anyways. Bearing pain was the only thing that stopped me. I never found an easier way to do it, and i never WANT to know an easier way.
Now, its been WAY better... I hardly go into those phases anymore. Cant complain.
I gotta say horses and Wicca have changed my life so much.
I mean, it surprises me how much change theyve brought upon me. And for good too. If I ever thought of suicide as an option, Id think how would i ever bare not seeing those beauiful creatures again. and also wicca - i mean, suicide just isnt part of all that and what would the god and goddess think? I think id be RELALY ashamed of myself if i went thru with it.
And horses and Wicca have really made me a better person too. A few years ago, I hardly EVER talked to my family or did anything with them. I never ate dinner with them (would eat it at 10pm or something) and never spoke to them, unless for necessities. And i was quite the black sheep...as well as a bad seed than, but i do NOT wnat to get into that.
But im SO much better now...thanks to everything. And Im glad im still here.
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Wow...this is like a book lol, gee guess i got a lot to say on this topic!
Gee and i hope i wasnt TOO hypocritical with the 'dont get too personal thing'. I guess Im standing on the EDGE of that limit right there with that paragraph about me...
